I survived my Birthday
Posted: Mon Nov 20, 2023 10:27 am
Yes, the party starter did not disappoint, LOL.
I've got a bunch of stuff jumbled up in my brain, right now. I had a weekend of doing some physical work that I would never have gotten around to had it not been for party preparations. I worked under my youngest sister's direction for setting up decorations and so forth. I had a chance to observe some things that I don't quite get.
There is something very dangerous about the way my culture treats Birthdays. Maybe having to do some work before mine helped me see a little bit more. There was this scale with 'Oh, it's your Birthday' on one side and 'Do what it takes to make it fun' on the other.
My entitlement was screaming at me, ok maybe not screaming , but it was there for sure, lol. There was plenty about what I shouldn't have to do. No surprise there.
The thing that is most complex to me, at least, was watching others put a lot of work into something that was in my honor. Yes, it was my Birthday, but no the party shouldn't be all about me, and then I'd hear people say that I shouldn't have to do too much because it's my Birthday, but wait, I could see that those people wouldn't want to treat me as if I didn't have to do anything. I don't think anybody really likes the "Diva." So, people pretend that they are celebrating you to be a "Diva" because , I guess, that is what you do. Kind of messy, I think.
However, my family really did put a great deal of time and effort into pulling off my party. My sister used abilities I didn't even know she had while the others did things in the background that I wouldn't even know to acknowledge them for. Regardless of their reasons for doing so, it is no small thing that they did them.
Now, I am on the look out for an environment conducive to advancement. My 18 year old nephew told me about the group he shares his creations with in school, and got to thinking about something in that direction- a group of writers, maybe.
As an aside, my sister has a real knack for the party planning and designing, and I can see that she would do well to pursue it as a side hustle if she could develop a system for it.
I've got a bunch of stuff jumbled up in my brain, right now. I had a weekend of doing some physical work that I would never have gotten around to had it not been for party preparations. I worked under my youngest sister's direction for setting up decorations and so forth. I had a chance to observe some things that I don't quite get.
There is something very dangerous about the way my culture treats Birthdays. Maybe having to do some work before mine helped me see a little bit more. There was this scale with 'Oh, it's your Birthday' on one side and 'Do what it takes to make it fun' on the other.
My entitlement was screaming at me, ok maybe not screaming , but it was there for sure, lol. There was plenty about what I shouldn't have to do. No surprise there.
The thing that is most complex to me, at least, was watching others put a lot of work into something that was in my honor. Yes, it was my Birthday, but no the party shouldn't be all about me, and then I'd hear people say that I shouldn't have to do too much because it's my Birthday, but wait, I could see that those people wouldn't want to treat me as if I didn't have to do anything. I don't think anybody really likes the "Diva." So, people pretend that they are celebrating you to be a "Diva" because , I guess, that is what you do. Kind of messy, I think.
However, my family really did put a great deal of time and effort into pulling off my party. My sister used abilities I didn't even know she had while the others did things in the background that I wouldn't even know to acknowledge them for. Regardless of their reasons for doing so, it is no small thing that they did them.
Now, I am on the look out for an environment conducive to advancement. My 18 year old nephew told me about the group he shares his creations with in school, and got to thinking about something in that direction- a group of writers, maybe.
As an aside, my sister has a real knack for the party planning and designing, and I can see that she would do well to pursue it as a side hustle if she could develop a system for it.