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Sometimes it's the little things that keep me from the important things

Posted: Thu Nov 30, 2023 3:30 am
by Majeed
The 'opponent' is relentless. I caught myself throwing a fit about some changes that took place in my Youtube subscription. It was like I had leaked entitlement all over my pants-oops! After that little episode, it occurred to me that every instance where I have had an upset was linked to entitlement- like every one of them.

I am just 'getting back in the saddle,' so to speak. I have not done well with managing my time over this last month. I also failed to keep my purpose in front of me as that would have helped me to be a better steward of my time.

I am never more fulfilled than when I am working on something where I am expressing myself and the whole idea of these challenges was to get on track to becoming productive enough that I would have time to create and work on the things that really get my juices going.

This weekend is the last of a series of parties I was asked to be part of. However, the problem, I suspect, was how I prioritize. I hate to admit that I might be a simpleton, but hey, it's not the end of the world.

At least one thing that I notice is I am not very productive at night and my will power is the weakest. So, I'll be shifting my work schedule to begin earlier so I can get to bed earlier.

On another note, there has been something I couldn't reconcile around the topic of entitlement, Perhaps, you can guide me along.
Equality is the battle cry of the day, it seems. This was all stirred up when I saw this documentary suggesting that Black people migrate to the south where their numbers are greater to provide a base for political power and such.

So, what I haven't been able to work out is that the concept of 'equality' seems to come from entitlement and yet doing what you can do to improve the quality of life seems to be taking responsibility.

To personalize this a bit, I jump in my car, go where I please, vote and do pretty much anything. This seems to be a direct function of my ancestors doing some work that affords me these privileges. I'm not entitled to the privileges I have, and yet, I wonder if those who fought that I may have these privileges had entitlement underneath their efforts?

Re: Sometimes it's the little things that keep me from the important things

Posted: Thu Nov 30, 2023 6:42 am
by Sophie
Majeed wrote: Thu Nov 30, 2023 3:30 am

On another note, there has been something I couldn't reconcile around the topic of entitlement, Perhaps, you can guide me along.
Equality is the battle cry of the day, it seems. This was all stirred up when I saw this documentary suggesting that Black people migrate to the south where their numbers are greater to provide a base for political power and such.

So, what I haven't been able to work out is that the concept of 'equality' seems to come from entitlement and yet doing what you can do to improve the quality of life seems to be taking responsibility.

To personalize this a bit, I jump in my car, go where I please, vote and do pretty much anything. This seems to be a direct function of my ancestors doing some work that affords me these privileges. I'm not entitled to the privileges I have, and yet, I wonder if those who fought that I may have these privileges had entitlement underneath their efforts?
interesting question. But let's look at it through distinguishing.

Is wanting an entitlement? Or is entitlement is a state that I don't need to want it, I have it? The right. the liberty, the respect? because it's my due.

I think that wanting and therefore fighting for it is the exact opposite of entitlement. Fighting for something, working for something, doing for something is outside of the boundary of entitlement.

When your base attitude: 'I shouldn't have to do what it takes to get what I want' is entitlement. No fight, no working, no doing, because it is my due to get what I want. See it?

Re: Sometimes it's the little things that keep me from the important things

Posted: Thu Nov 30, 2023 1:26 pm
by Majeed
A HA! I don't need to want it because it is my due. Motherf@#$ker! So, if I actually do something towards what I WANT then that is not entitlement.

Ok, thank you for layering in so much in today's article. First, it looks like I'm not on the map. No Self.

It's interesting that my biggest complaint about my life has been no self expression- no room for it, no time for it, no environment for it. Especially since I just got that I really don't know what it is.

I'm not even sure what it isn't. Scary!

It probably isn't when I do accents, what I choose to wear, or what I write. But I can see some of the work to be done- Distinguishing self.

I'm not totally in the dark, though. I can catch, at times, when I am operating from self-concern and in those instances, there is no 'Self.'

For someone who has spent a lifetime concerned about what others think is important, it is fitting that my biggest complaint would be Self-expression.

My attitude is now that I can handle this.

Re: Sometimes it's the little things that keep me from the important things

Posted: Thu Nov 30, 2023 5:00 pm
by Sophie
Majeed wrote: Thu Nov 30, 2023 1:26 pm A HA! I don't need to want it because it is my due. Motherf@#$ker! So, if I actually do something towards what I WANT then that is not entitlement.

Ok, thank you for layering in so much in today's article. First, it looks like I'm not on the map. No Self.

It's interesting that my biggest complaint about my life has been no self expression- no room for it, no time for it, no environment for it. Especially since I just got that I really don't know what it is.

I'm not even sure what it isn't. Scary!

It probably isn't when I do accents, what I choose to wear, or what I write. But I can see some of the work to be done- Distinguishing self.

I'm not totally in the dark, though. I can catch, at times, when I am operating from self-concern and in those instances, there is no 'Self.'

For someone who has spent a lifetime concerned about what others think is important, it is fitting that my biggest complaint would be Self-expression.

My attitude is now that I can handle this.
but you still don't have a complaint. self-expression is a concept, not a complaint. A complaint has no jargon, it is simple even your next door neighbor of your nephews can understand. So formulate your complaint. Please.

Re: Sometimes it's the little things that keep me from the important things

Posted: Fri Dec 01, 2023 1:29 pm
by Majeed
Ok, my complaint is that I am always left out. As in, what others seem to be able to do I can't.

Re: Sometimes it's the little things that keep me from the important things

Posted: Sat Dec 02, 2023 10:01 pm
by Sophie
Majeed wrote: Fri Dec 01, 2023 1:29 pm Ok, my complaint is that I am always left out. As in, what others seem to be able to do I can't.
ok. that is better. thank you