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Posted: Thu Jan 25, 2024 2:06 pm
...I, for one, would love to read how everyone is getting on with the work we've been doing.
I'm curious as to what some of you are noticing in your lives as you continue the 'Drink your food' practice. I have noticed that I am not living 'in the space' Sophie wrote about.
The other day provided a glaring example of what I mean. For context, a few months ago, my youngest sister called me to say that she was intending to throw me a themed birthday party. I told her that I wasn't interested in that. Some time after that call, she called again to ask, and by then, I was aware that a good deal of planning had went into the party prior to me agreeing, so I reluctantly said, 'yes.'
Ok, fast forward to a few weeks ago when I called her to plan the date for her birthday celebration around something she had expressly wished to do. She was all in, and I was excited to carry out the plans. Something said to check in with her the other day to confirm her availability since I needed to book the venue; the venue itself was to be a surprise.
So, she starts bringing up these hurdles as to why she can't be available. Guess what my response was? Yep, I took it personal-( How could you back out. I didn't want to have a party either, but blah, blah, blah).
You can probably clearly see that I wasn't being 'in the space' It was all about me and my sacrifices. Even so, the entitlement in assuming that because I went along with her birthday plans, she must go along with mine.
Here is another angle to look at in this situation: Sophie wrote- "When, on the other hand you see something that you don’t like, you don’t agree with, suspect that these are YOUR dark side manifested and shown to you in other people."
This is hard hitting for me. I was shown my dark side. In this, I am very much like my sister. I did not agree with her choice.
Sophie went on to write: "Uncomfortable, unconfrontable, and that is the value: it starts to develop your immune system.
There is nothing to fix, there is nothing wrong… just being willing to engage in looking, in noticing, and considering that you are seeing yourself is perfect, and enough.
The moment you are trying to change anything, you are in the mind, you are caught up in the pretense mechanism of the mind."
Alright, there's nothing to change.
As to what 'space' I could have moved into, well, that is where I am weak. I am almost sure that there was a time to look at what was there. Maybe ask or acknowledge that there seems to be something she (my sister) is dealing with, and at the very least, open up the conversation for listening and perhaps, compassion.
If I am going to love her, then I suppose this is where I start. Also, there is a possibility for gratitude in showing me my dark side- very valuable.
Thanks for reading this.
I'm curious as to what some of you are noticing in your lives as you continue the 'Drink your food' practice. I have noticed that I am not living 'in the space' Sophie wrote about.
The other day provided a glaring example of what I mean. For context, a few months ago, my youngest sister called me to say that she was intending to throw me a themed birthday party. I told her that I wasn't interested in that. Some time after that call, she called again to ask, and by then, I was aware that a good deal of planning had went into the party prior to me agreeing, so I reluctantly said, 'yes.'
Ok, fast forward to a few weeks ago when I called her to plan the date for her birthday celebration around something she had expressly wished to do. She was all in, and I was excited to carry out the plans. Something said to check in with her the other day to confirm her availability since I needed to book the venue; the venue itself was to be a surprise.
So, she starts bringing up these hurdles as to why she can't be available. Guess what my response was? Yep, I took it personal-( How could you back out. I didn't want to have a party either, but blah, blah, blah).
You can probably clearly see that I wasn't being 'in the space' It was all about me and my sacrifices. Even so, the entitlement in assuming that because I went along with her birthday plans, she must go along with mine.
Here is another angle to look at in this situation: Sophie wrote- "When, on the other hand you see something that you don’t like, you don’t agree with, suspect that these are YOUR dark side manifested and shown to you in other people."
This is hard hitting for me. I was shown my dark side. In this, I am very much like my sister. I did not agree with her choice.
Sophie went on to write: "Uncomfortable, unconfrontable, and that is the value: it starts to develop your immune system.
There is nothing to fix, there is nothing wrong… just being willing to engage in looking, in noticing, and considering that you are seeing yourself is perfect, and enough.
The moment you are trying to change anything, you are in the mind, you are caught up in the pretense mechanism of the mind."
Alright, there's nothing to change.
As to what 'space' I could have moved into, well, that is where I am weak. I am almost sure that there was a time to look at what was there. Maybe ask or acknowledge that there seems to be something she (my sister) is dealing with, and at the very least, open up the conversation for listening and perhaps, compassion.
If I am going to love her, then I suppose this is where I start. Also, there is a possibility for gratitude in showing me my dark side- very valuable.
Thanks for reading this.